Dear Heidi: Can I ask my family to pick a charity to donate to rather than buy them gifts this year?
I love this idea of promoting a cycle of giving, rather than buying family members holiday gifts they may not want or use. A charitable...
INTERNATIONAL ETIQUETTE COACH | SOCIAL ACTIVIST | SPEAKER
Blog
Search
Heidi Dulebohn
- Nov 23, 2020
- 4 min
Dear Heidi: How do you build a polished, inexpensive professional wardrobe?
Looking the part is important in a career. You should make an effort to be well put together — and you don't have to break the bank to do...
Heidi Dulebohn
- Nov 16, 2020
- 3 min
Dear Heidi: How can I get my friend to take no for an answer?
When someone asks you the same thing over and over hoping for a different answer, it can be tough to deal with, but you can handle it. “A...
Heidi Dulebohn
- Nov 10, 2020
- 3 min
Dear Heidi: Is it petty to break up with someone for eating with their mouth open?
That depends. How important is etiquette in your life? Many of us are fortunate to have been raised by loved ones who considered...
Heidi Dulebohn
- Nov 2, 2020
- 3 min
Dear Heidi: Why is it so hard to keep my temper when certain members of my family criticize me?
They are so prone to mishap, families ought to come with a warning label. If something happens, remember to pause; you're in control....
Heidi Dulebohn
- Oct 26, 2020
- 2 min
Dear Heidi: Is it appropriate to advise a foreign coworker to soften her communication style?
Those not born in the US may speak differently, and that's ok. They may have to adapt a bit so as not to alienate people. The first rule...
Heidi Dulebohn
- Oct 20, 2020
- 2 min
Dear Heidi: Is there a nice way to tell someone they’ve already told the same story multiple times?
The first few times, that little tale was amusing. Now, it's just the same old story... It’s usually fun and exciting to hear someone...
Heidi Dulebohn
- Oct 12, 2020
- 3 min
Dear Heidi: How do you know how far to go when it comes to sharing personal information at work?
Rule of thumb: If it doesn’t cross your “no controversial or inappropriate subjects” boundaries, go ahead, and share. It is a tricky...
Heidi Dulebohn
- Oct 7, 2020
- 3 min
Dear Heidi: Why exactly is it always best to ignore and/or not respond to rudeness?
A reader's child wants to know, and it's a valid question. My short response? Because it's the kind thing to do. A reader posed an...
Heidi Dulebohn
- Sep 28, 2020
- 2 min
Dear Heidi: I accidentally hit “on” for the camera, and a client saw me partially clothed! Help...
Yikes. Who knew the age of Zoom could be so "dangerous?" You may feel like you'll never recover, but you will. I have a few suggestions....
Heidi Dulebohn
- Sep 21, 2020
- 2 min
Dear Heidi: Someone told a lie about me, and I can't understand why?
Well, that's not very nice. Fortunately, you can choose how to respond. It never feels good to learn you are the object of a lie —...
Heidi Dulebohn
- Sep 15, 2020
- 3 min
Dear Heidi: You use the phrase social codes a lot. What are they exactly?
Think of social codes as the keys to navigate your life. A complement to your technical abilities, they help you to reach your goals....
Heidi Dulebohn
- Aug 31, 2020
- 2 min
Dear Heidi: How do I explain to loved ones that their constant comments about my body are upsetting?
If personal comments about your body or appetite hurt, or cause you to make poor choices, it's time to say something — politely. Specific...
Heidi Dulebohn
- Aug 21, 2020
- 2 min
Dear Heidi: How do I break things off with a man with a really bad temper?
Be respectful and kind, but put your safety first. Plan your exit strategy carefully with that top of mind. Relationships are hard, even...
Heidi Dulebohn
- Aug 17, 2020
- 2 min
Dear Heidi: What do I do? I thought this person wanted to be friends. But they want a new client.
It can be annoying and a bit hurtful when you get the wrong idea about someone. But hold on to your patience and your social codes. What...
Heidi Dulebohn
- Aug 15, 2020
- 3 min
Dear Heidi: Is it ever acceptable to warn someone about an untrustworthy person?
Tread carefully. You must be positively sure about your information before you confidentially tell tales about others. Telling tales...
Heidi Dulebohn
- Aug 7, 2020
- 2 min
Dear Heidi: How do you patch things up with a friend after a falling out?
Hold your friends dear, really build and nurture those relationships. So when inevitable disagreements occur, you'll be able to recover....
Heidi Dulebohn
- Aug 3, 2020
- 2 min
Dear Heidi: How can I tell an old friend that her tough talking ways are getting on my nerves?
We all have that one friend who's speech can be a little, shall we say, colorful? But if that's not your style, you can still find ways...
Heidi Dulebohn
- Jul 20, 2020
- 3 min
Dear Heidi: How can I tell my boss his leadership style is giving me anxiety?
Or, is that career suicide? Leadership styles vary as much as leaders do, some are good, others not so good. Unfortunately, most of us...
Heidi Dulebohn
- Jul 13, 2020
- 2 min
Dear Heidi: Is it petty of me not to want to contribute to work collections for wedding gifts?
There are often overt and nuanced expectations to build and sustain peer and work family relationships. Working in an office, either in...