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Jun 29
3 min

Dear Heidi: How do you handle money questions?

Someone asked me recently about my salary, and I was taken aback. Money can be a sensitive topic. Questions about one’s finances can seem...

Heidi Dulebohn

Jun 23
2 min

Dear Heidi: What’s your favorite etiquette book?

Etiquette is an art form. There are as many facets to etiquette as there are opinions about the interpretation of its guidelines. Alterna...

Heidi Dulebohn

Jun 16
3 min

Dear Heidi: How do you conduct a Zoom meeting with a mix of family, coworkers & friends?

And make sure it is not completely awkward? It’s tough to say no to certain events in the age of Covid-19. People are trying to connect v...

Heidi Dulebohn

Jun 12
2 min

Dear Heidi: How do you accept a compliment?

They’re meant to be nice, but it can be embarrassing to have someone gush over you. How do you handle it with grace, be appreciative and ...

Heidi Dulebohn

May 19
3 min

Dear Heidi: How do I tell a friend that I was hurt by her not inviting me to a recent event?

I don’t want to make a big deal about it, or start any conflict, but I can’t seem to shake it off. I want to know why, you know? What sho...

Heidi Dulebohn

May 12
2 min

Dear Heidi: Should I ask for a raise during the pandemic? Or should I wait?

Our company has laid off quite a few people because of COVID-19, and I’m doing tasks that two other people once did.I don’t want my boss ...

Heidi Dulebohn

May 5
2 min

Dear Heidi: Is it intrusive to ask why someone is single and doesn't have children?

There’s a lady I’ve become friendly with, and I’m very curious, but I don't want to overstep. We haven’t been friends very long. Or is it...

Heidi Dulebohn

Apr 22
1 min

Dear Heidi: If someone has a dietary restriction, is it the host’s responsibility to ask?

Or is it the guest’s responsibility to share? What do you do if you are served something you can’t eat? Generally speaking, it is the hos...

Heidi Dulebohn

Apr 22
2 min

Dear Heidi: What’s the best way to organize a potluck, and how do I decide who is bringing what?

The weather is nicer, and I’d like to host a dinner party potluck! What do I change from a formal dinner party to make this more casual? ...

Heidi Dulebohn

Apr 13
2 min

Dear Heidi: How do you politely tell someone that there is something “wrong” with them?

As in they have spinach in their teeth, they spilled on themselves, they need a tissue, etc.? Or is it best to not say anything at all? T...

Heidi Dulebohn

Apr 6
2 min

Dear Heidi: I’m planning an international trip for this summer.

What do I need to have prepared in order to be culturally aware and polite while I’m there? What resources can I trust? At this date, I a...

Heidi Dulebohn

Mar 30
2 min

Dear Heidi: When attending a dinner party, do I have to bring something?

And how do I know what to bring? It is kind to bring a small token of your appreciation for the invitation to the host. The gift is an ea...

Heidi Dulebohn

Mar 18
2 min

Dear Heidi: Is it a big deal if I miss the RSVP date on an invite?

It is generally a big deal to miss responding by the RSVP date on an invitation; especially if you plan to attend. Invitations that incl...

Heidi Dulebohn

Mar 11
2 min

Dear Heidi: How many times do I allow someone to reschedule before I just cancel?

And how do I do that appropriately? This depends on the situation and the person who keeps rescheduling. If this is a casual coffee with...

Heidi Dulebohn

Mar 4
2 min

Dear Heidi: Where did the idea for a tablecloth come from? How has its meaning/significance evolved?

When was the last time you used a tablecloth? Perhaps it was during the holidays, and you pulled out the tablecloth that’s been in your f...

Heidi Dulebohn

Feb 25
1 min

Dear Heidi: How do I know which fork to use? And why is one so tiny?!

The short answer is, use utensils from the outside in. When faced with multiple utensils at your place setting and not a clue which to us...

Heidi Dulebohn

Feb 18
2 min

Dear Heidi: I'm a waiter. To whom do I hand the bill?

The question of “Who pays?” or, “Who gets the bill?” from the waitstaff’s perspective has an interesting and varied answer, and examines ...

Heidi Dulebohn

Feb 11
1 min

Dear Heidi: Who is right—Queen Elizabeth or my mom?

I always preface any etiquette lecture by saying, “Whatever you learned at home is right—for you.” However, I can teach you what is the e...

Heidi Dulebohn

Feb 6
1 min

Dear Heidi: Can I be fashionably late on Valentine's Day?

Dear Heidi: Is being fashionably late acceptable on Valentine’s Day? Being on time is a sign of respect. When it comes to Valentine’s Day...

Heidi Dulebohn

Jan 31
1 min

Dear Heidi: Can I have my phone on the table?

Dear Heidi: Is it ever okay to have your cell phone out when dining? Generally speaking, no, cell phones should not be out on a dining ta...

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Dear Heidi: How do you handle money questions?

Dear Heidi: What’s your favorite etiquette book?

Dear Heidi: How do you conduct a Zoom meeting with a mix of family, coworkers & friends?

Dear Heidi: How do you accept a compliment?

Dear Heidi: How do I tell a friend that I was hurt by her not inviting me to a recent event?

Dear Heidi: Should I ask for a raise during the pandemic? Or should I wait?

Dear Heidi: Is it intrusive to ask why someone is single and doesn't have children?

Dear Heidi: If someone has a dietary restriction, is it the host’s responsibility to ask?

Dear Heidi: What’s the best way to organize a potluck, and how do I decide who is bringing what?

Dear Heidi: How do you politely tell someone that there is something “wrong” with them?

Dear Heidi: I’m planning an international trip for this summer.

Dear Heidi: When attending a dinner party, do I have to bring something?

Dear Heidi: Is it a big deal if I miss the RSVP date on an invite?

Dear Heidi: How many times do I allow someone to reschedule before I just cancel?

Dear Heidi: Where did the idea for a tablecloth come from? How has its meaning/significance evolved?

Dear Heidi: How do I know which fork to use? And why is one so tiny?!

Dear Heidi: I'm a waiter. To whom do I hand the bill?

Dear Heidi: Who is right—Queen Elizabeth or my mom?

Dear Heidi: Can I be fashionably late on Valentine's Day?

Dear Heidi: Can I have my phone on the table?

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